I found this on Out.com today, reading some news, and gossip, cause who can help themselves, really.

(X-Men baddie Sir Ian McKellen is taking a stand. The out actor has attacked new British law allowing homosexual couples to form civil unions, claiming they’re absurd and that they discriminate against both homosexual and heterosexual couples. According to ContactMusic.com, McKellen insists the law is nonsensical and that the U.K. government passed it to avoid controversy. “I really can’t see why the government couldn’t just say gay people can get married—that would have been true equality and so much simpler,” he says. “But that hasn’t been done because they couldn’t face the furor. So they’ve passed a law that is not available to straight people. Straight people cannot have a civil partnership—they have to get married. Extraordinary.” Glad someone else sees the irony here.)

This is really what gay rights is about. It’s a discussion that I had with a friend a while back. A majority of the gay community just want to be able to marry, to be equal. It’s not about the ‘we’re here, we’re queer..’ attitude, it’s just about saying that what I do in my bedroom is just a private as what you do, gay, bi, trans, hetero, or even asexual…. our actions in the bedroom are not indicitive of who we are. We are just the same as everyone else.

Ian Mckellen is right, why the distinction, cause it makes people comfortable with themselves? To belittle our emotional attachments as civil unions, and not marriages, is like saying that white people are no more people, than say, a tree. It’s a ludacris idea, especially when the purtians tried so hard to put the act of sex for everyone far away in the closet, our society has now tried to bring it all out, ironic as it is, and make our identity about our sexuality.

Now, I know it’s also the glbt community’s fault, cause there are some who possess that ‘we’re here, we’re queer’ mentality, misguided thinking if we are as loud as possible, it will get us rights… It does get us attention, but is it negative, or positive? I think both. In some communities where there is seeminly no community at all, then perhaps it brings awareness. But, on the other side of that, in that same community, all an attitude like that could do is perpetuate fear. There needs to be a balance, and an understanding. That people are people, no matter their race, creed, sexuality, gender or hair color.

Strange Concept. Don’t you think.